Okay, so the laundry is still winning, but we have made a great improvement. I am down to less than 1/2 of the hang up stuff (not quite 1 basket full) and towels and sheets. Everything else it put away.
I still don't know how my mother did/does it. She always has her stuff put away and she actually takes the time and irons EVERYTHING that needs ironed. I haven't ironed in a long time. I live in the world of tossing it in the dryer with a damp washcloth if it's too bad and I only give in to ironing when I have to. Well at least I can find the clothes I need now.